When we first had Colin, I thought getting pregnant again the 2nd time around would be completely different because even though not having children again really wasn't a plan of ours, I thought I would be laden with worry.
Sure, there have been a few times where I have been nervous when undergoing certain testing, or during the intial consultation, but I guess there really isn't much to worry about. Of course, we want a healthy baby, so there are the natural worries with that, but I don't think it's possible to ever have a pregnancy or child without worrying about something.
Because we "fell through the cracks" the 1st time around...meaning, we had all of the prenatal screening offered, but we didn't have any of the usual markers that you would find with a baby having DS, we have been monitored more closely this time around. We did have 1 "scare" early on with Colin where they found an echogenic cardiac focus on the heart so we were referred to a perinatal specialist. The specialist went through the anatomy of the heart, explained the function of the heart, and after thinking our baby had a cardiac problem, told us it was a marker for DS. However, he felt that he was pretty confident Colin didn't have DS because there were no other markers and our statistics were all coming back in a normal range. That day we went through a range of emotions, but the scared feeling eventually resolved because at our follow-up visit the doctor told us that the focus had resolved and "all was well" (we weren't a fan of his bedside manner).
So, this time around, we will be seeing a different perinatal specialist, just to have the Level II ultrasound . We really don't care either way to go, but I look at it as getting to see the baby more than normal (which I love doing). We turned down the amniocentisis because we know the results of it won't matter, and just opted for all of the normal screenings we had the 1st time around (which obviously didn't show anything anyway).
We do feel that some education is important, so as to prepare ourselves, and the baby, if the need was there due to health complications. However, we don't feel that for us, it is necessary to have the invasive testing because it isn't going to change our decision on bringing the baby into this world.
We are choosing to remain surprised about the gender (as we did for Colin) and this time around, we hope for the only surprise to be the gender (lol) although again, we will be prepared and ready to handle it if something else, like DS, were to come up.
To be honest, I worry more about the challenge of having 2 children as opposed to any medical issues. So far, everything has been great, and aside from some not so great nausea in the 1st trimester, I have been feeling pretty good. It is completely different the 2nd time around because I am so busy with Colin and a new job that time is going by much more quickly. In one of the ultrasounds that we were at, the baby was waving up a storm and I just felt like they were saying to me..."don't worry, everything is going to be ok". So in whatever capacity that means, we can't wait for baby #2 to get here :)